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3 steps to make the change you want in yourself in 2016

January 2, 2016

3 steps to make the change you want in yourself in 2016

Have you made any New Year’s resolutions yet?

Did you make them last year? If so, did you keep them?

In my “day job”, I’m a trainer…my job is to modify people’s behavior. Sometimes, all you have to do is tell them what they need to know in order to do something a different way, and they do.

That’s education, though…not training. Education is important, but I like to say that you haven’t trained a dog to sit if they just know what it means. 😉

I think I can safely say that I’m reasonably successful at what I do.

For that reason, I thought I could share some things with you that may help you get to where you want to be this year.

1. Have a vision

You can’t make any progress if you don’t know where you are going.

You can go somewhere, but how are you going to know if you succeeded if you don’t know what success looks like?

So, step 1 is definitely to figure out what you want to change.

This can be a broad idea: “I want to be healthier”, “I want to have more money”, and so on. It does, though, need an end state…something you can recognize.

2. Make small goals that you are sure you can achieve 90% of the time

Once you have a vision, you need to find out what you can do to realize that vision. For example, let’s say you see yourself getting into shape. You can clearly picture what you would look like at that point.

You talk to your medical professional, who recommends you do more exercise…at least 10,000 steps a day.

The first day you measure your steps, you get 5,000…and you are tired.

You know you want to get to 10,000 steps a day, because that will help you get fit.

It’s important to make accomplishable goals

Let’s say you decided right off the bat to get those 10,0o00 steps.

The first day, you try and try, and get 7,000 steps…but you are wiped out.

Are you going to want to try for 10,000 the next day? Probably not.

On the other hand, you got to 5,000 pretty easily…just a bit more than your normal routine.

If that was the case, set your goal at 5,000 steps a day. You want to be confident you can hit your goal 90% of the time (hey, sometimes things interfere…that’s okay).

Keep it there until you are both confident and bored. 🙂

Then, move it up…but not by much. Maybe 5,500 steps a day.

Keep it there until you hit that confident and bored level again.

It’s okay if that is weeks…you are moving in the right direction.

Interestingly, your body prepares itself for more than the current challenge. If your body “thinks” you are likely to do 5,000 steps a day, it will get itself ready for that 5,500.

Eventually, by stepping up slowly (so to speak), you’ll get to where you want to be.

This next part is crucial: don’t keep going when you make your goal! If you said your goal was 5,000 and you hit and you feel like you could keep going towards that 10,000, stop anyway.

Otherwise, you’ll just keep going until you fail…and then you won’t want to try again the next time.

If you did great, you can increase to the next level sooner or take a bigger step up when you do go to the next level.

I had someone who was helping with basketball years ago who had a great line: “Never leave on a missed shot.” This coach (I was a kid) said that if I was trying to do something new, let’s say a hook shot, and I missed it five times and it was time to leave, do an easy lay-up first.

3.  Accept imperfection

Up above, I said your goal should be something you confidently think you can do 90% of the time.

Not 100%.

You might have a cold, you might have a family crisis which interferes…it might be your Significant Other’s birthday.

One step backwards doesn’t undo 100 steps forward…unless you don’t turn around and get going forward again.

If you do 100 steps forward, one step back, 50 steps forward, one step back, you are still making progress.

Can’t do your half an hour workout? Do ten minutes…that’s better than nothing.

Just because you can’t do everything, doesn’t mean you should do nothing.

To sum up: your vision can be something you want to be…your goal (and your resolutions) should be something you want to do.

Give yourself a lot of success by setting small achievable goals in 2016…that will help you realize your vision.

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We’re a game!

September 1, 2012

We’re a game!

This surprised me, but it’s fun. 🙂

On IMDb (the Internet Movie Database), which is one of my favorite sites (it’s a reliable movie/TV reference site owned by Amazon), you can create lists.

I decided to turn our 2012 The Measured Circle’s Box Office MVPs into a list on IMDb.

One thing that’s cool is that the list will show up on the pages of all of the actors who appear on it.

Well, I was updating it, and saw that there was a link where you could play the list as a game!

You can play it in an easier or harder version, but I found even the “easy” one pretty tough. They give you some trivia about the actor, and then you guess who it is. You’ll see a number of points…it’s counting down while you think. Guess sooner, get more points.

Hope you have fun! 🙂

This post by Bufo Calvin originally appeared in the The Measured Circle blog.

My friendly Black Friday (really)

November 27, 2010

My friendly Black Friday (really)

It’s a family tradition that we go shopping on Black Friday (the day after Thanksgiving).

In this earlier post, I gave you some tips for getting the best out of it.  I thought it was only fair that I check back with you on how it went with us today.

We set the alarms for 3:30, but both of us beat them by a few minutes.  The pets were quite confused to be fed that early…but willing to make the sacrifice.  😉

We got to our first store, JC Penney’s, at 4:00 (which was when it opened).  We picked up the annual snow globe/ornament.  That’s a family tradition, too..this is the only day of the year my offspring gets homesick.  😉

We shopped JCP and Macys.  Everything went fine at JCP…funny, good-natured, and efficient salesclerk.  Macys…well, I didn’t see it, but my offspring said one of the clerks was…um…not used to doing this.

Next was Target, and that’s where we had a lot of fun.  It happened to be that, just as we were going into the store, they were bringing in a couple of carts.  We got one…we are mainly in Target to buy toys for Toys for Tots.  We like to do that…on Black Friday, it gives you a chance to buy the mainstream toys that the kids who benefit from Toys for Tots might not get otherwise.

We checked out the line…it was very long.

So, we followed one of the pieces of advice I gave you: I got into line with the cart.  My Significant Other went off to the toy department.  Well, a young couple came up behind me…arms full of presents. 

I offered to let them use my cart.  We got to chatting…had a very nice time.  When my Significant Other (SO) came back, we just put our presents in the bottom of the cart.  My SO carried a package for another person, and we all had a lovely time.

We learned about the kids, and a trip to Disneyland, and the changing tastes of a ten-year old.

Target did a great job with the line, by the way.  We were really supported by a large staff…with ping pong paddles.  It was sort of like being waved around by the tarmac crew at the airport.  😉 

After that, we went home and unloaded.  I also had to inject the diabetic dog with insulin, and there’s a bit of time pressure with that.

We did try a new restaurant in town for breakfast…okay, that didn’t work out well.  🙂  The place was freezing, the food wasn’t good.  Our waiter was friendly and efficient.

Over to Kohl’s…which appeared to be handling the line poorly.  People were upset in it, and clearly waiting a long time.  The up escalator wasn’t working.  We decided it wasn’t worth getting anything there…the line looked like it would take an hour.

I did see a clerk do a very nice thing.  One shopper was clearly upset, speaking loudly to a relative on a cellphone.  The clerk came over, nothing accusatory, and just asked if there was anything that the clerk could do to help.  The clerk started helping the shopper rearrange purchases…that made everything better, even for the other shoppers.

We were back home easily by 9…in plenty of time for online bargains.  🙂

All in all, a pleasant day.

This post by Bufo Calvin originally appeared in the The Measured Circle. 

Can you pay them to go through your garbage?

February 24, 2010

Can you pay them to go through your garbage?

Do you know somebody who’d like a little of that Kardashian  flash?  Do you want to make them feel like a real star going into that birthday party or award ceremony?

I heard about this one on KGO, the big dog talk radio station in my area.

You can hire a group called Private Paparazzi to provide that flashbulb-popping, press card in the hatband experience…oh, wait a minute, I think I’m stuck in the 1930s again.  😉  They don’t use flashbulbs any more, right?

Anyway, it sounds like a good (if not cheap) way to add a really memorable touch to somebody’s special event.  They also emphasize that you’ll get a professional photographer to stay and take great pictures, and I think that makes it a lot more valuable.

This post by Bufo Calvin originally appeared in the The Measured Circle blog.

Welcome to The Measured Circle!

February 15, 2010

Welcome to The Measured Circle!

“One measures a circle, beginning anywhere.”

–Charles Fort

Fort’s point was that everything is connected.  If you start looking at something, you’ll find connections to other things.  Keep going long enough, and you’ll go through everything in existence and get back to where you started.

That’s great for somebody with eclectic interests like me!  You can start with Thundarr the Barbarian, get to Marie Antoinette, go through whoopee cushions, and eventually, end up back at Thundarr.

That doesn’t mean everything is equally important, but it does mean that everything is important…since it is connected to all things.

I have a lot of interests…I always say that’s one of the best things about being a geek…we have a low threshold of amusement.  🙂

This blog is really going to range around…whatever catches my interest, whenever it does.  It’s not going to be like my best-selling blog, I Love My Kindle.  On that one, I write a thousand words a day, do a lot of research, and (for the most part) stick on topic.

In fact, I was thinking of calling this blog Off Topic, but that one was taken.  😉

I know, you need to have some idea what you’re going to be reading, right?

Well, I’m sure to talk about geeky stuff…Doc Savage, Star Trek, that kind of thing.  I may talk gadgets, puns, paranormal, do some fiction…maybe animals, maybe even some politics…definitely pop culture.

Hmmm…not giving you much guidance, am I?

Pieces may be short…long than tweets, but often shorter than my ILMK stuff. 

It’s also going to be irregular…I can’t give myself another deadline and make this work.  When I have a deadline, I feel honor-bound to try and meet it.  I do think this will benefit my other blogs…since I get tempted to sneak this kind of stuff in there otherwise.

So, I don’t think this one is going to get quoted in any news sources…but I do hope people want to share it some. 

So, as they said in the opening of the Supermarionation show Stingray: “Stand by for action!  Anything can happen in the next half hour!”

This post by Bufo Calvin originally appeared in the The Measured Circle blog.

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